Why?

[Natsuko]

hi guys, and gals.

I have a serious question and I really would like an honest answer. I've been here now for three years and I have tried and tried and tried with many different characters that I ended up Deleted because no one would play with them, I rarely even get anyone to reply to my posts and if they do its one or two things and then it goes stale like they aren't interested.

I'm sorry I am not a novelist writer like so many of you and my grammar and spelling isn't the best in the world. So, I kinda feel like I'm on the outs and it does feel somewhat of a clique group here. I have tried countless of times to get involved only to be ignored so I just do what I do best is design my apartments. I recently did have one scene with one guy on my Paladin which was nice. but it was short because I really had nothing else to say because seriously not use to playing post by post.

Even when I hit the Chat room, not anyone really says Hi to me. I end up saying hi and get something going a little bit. Gee, am I that bad? Come on guys why be so stuck up? It does hurt and I do want to get involved, whether it be a love story or whatever. You have about ten people who stick together that have over 20+ Characters that somehow someway know each other etc, etc.

Maybe I should just leave quietly and leave it at that. It's really sad because I like being here. I just wish people would drag me into scenes or maybe on the forum or what have you. But me seeing something like that is when pigs fly. Please, don't even start one cause of this "Violin act" it's not an act as many would call it. It's my way of expressing myself.

I've probably written about this somewhere along the line way back when. If I did. I apologize and will keep to myself.

Good day, and hope you all have a wonderful Holliday cause I hate them.

Laura.

[Enver Marshall II]

I understand you're upset, but don't add fuel to the fire by calling people stuck up.

Currently, there are three open threads in hardcore, I believe. You have a paladin you mentioned that could do the gm event. Not every thread can be open, as there are specific reasons to some threads, like most mine. It's not a slight at anyone, I've done open threads and few people join (the regulars) or then people who join that aren't my set of regulars stop posting, then the thread die because how can you continually ignore characters that talked, or did something major in the thread? I've been slighted, personally, too many times on open threads that I really don't like doing them.

[Azraeth]

There are certainly better ways to get attention than by insulting people.

Look, I get where you're coming from, Kitteh. I have felt snubbed in the past by people, and felt left out before. So I really empathize with you here. Like I understand the frustration of wanting to fit in and not quite knowing how.

But I think there's a constructive way to express yourself (general) and a destructive way. Laying your woes on the shoulders of the community isn't going to get you what you seem to be wanting. You might consider joining an open thread, like Becca suggested above. I don't think anyone expects you to be a novelist - I know I have never had a problem with your post length.

My point is that I think you should change your tactic if you want to make friends. Try channeling some of that frustration into kindness. I find that tends to be the foundation for a strong, lasting friendship (online or otherwise). <3 <3

[Aaron Hunter]

Hello, Grumpykitten player :)

Don’t feel so disheartened. It may be a small community here, but there is someone for everyone. If you trawl through the forums, you’re bound to find a thread that suits you. Over the last year, I must have started ten or a dozen open threads. Some are still ongoing, some ended due to people leaving or the thread reaching its natural conclusion, while others had no replies at all. That’s just the way it goes. I don’t feel bad if nobody replies, I just start a new one. Anyone is always welcome to join my open threads. That’s why they are open :)

I’m sure that most folk don’t care too much about spelling & grammar; I certainly don’t. We aren’t at school here. People aren’t marking our homework :)

Yes, there are cliques here, but there are cliques everywhere. It’s human nature to band together with like-minded people, but it doesn’t mean that these cliques are bad. I’m in a clique: it consists of me :)

Every day is a holiday in Hunterland!

[Flynn]

Hey sweets,

I certainly understand how hard it can be when you feel you like you are the outside looking in. I'm pretty sure that everyone involved in Path, Blood, or other RP-based site has felt that way, at some point. It's natural to want to be involved and taking part in the fun. When you aren't, or feel as though others aren't puting in the effort to include you, it can be pretty disheartening.

Along with the suggestions above, such as joining open threads, there is also the possibility that you reach out to individual players. If you see a character on the forum that you think 'You know, I think I could really have some fun writing with that character" then reach out! Poke the player in PM and ask if they might be interested in plotting with you, coming up with a scenario that you can both enjoy. In my experience, a lot of the players here are very receptive to that, and are willing to work something out. Granted, there may be a waiting period, because it's not uncommon for any one player to have multiple threads running at a time (especially those with 20+ characters, like you mentioned), but that also doesn't mean they don't want to write with you.

Talking to the players is just as important as the character interaction. You don't have to become best friends with the players you are writing with, but having that general basis can really keep things moving. It lets them know that you are still interested in seeing the plot of your RP progresses. That you want to be involved.

I'm sorry you are struggling with this, but I hope it can be worked out. <3

[Mooncalf]

I know some writers on some sites like these can be elitist, and avoid roleplaying with writers they feel have less than perfect grammar, or characters they don't personally like, etc. That might be happening, but I doubt everyone is like that on Path.

People generally don't say hello when anyone joins chat, except a small circle of about 5 friends. So don't feel like people are snubbing you there. Most of the time people are away from the keyboard and just ghosting, and even when they aren't they don't tend to say hi to everyone. That's something I'd love to see improve, so people like you are very welcome in Path Grumpy, because you're friendly. And friendly counts for so much when you're trying to build a good community!

As for roleplay, jump into open threads! Get more practice that way, and your character will find tons of allies whose writers drag you into threads regularly.

[Roderic]

^ that's actually a really good point. I don't join chats typically until night time, and then I go afk for a fair bit to do mommy things, a lot. So I'm not ignoring anyone intentionally, I just go afk, come back to like 42 missed messages and just kinda skim/skip over those.

[Caligrace]

As many others have said, GrumpyKitty, please remember to be nice OOC. Do not call other players stuck up. :)

I know that as a community, it can seem hard to try and get involved. I've been there. For the longest time the only one I had to write with was my husband, but you have to just keep trying. I know personally, we're not trying to keep you out.

Like other's have mentioned, there are a lot of threads popping up in the hardcore that you can jump into, and many more planned to crop up, I'm sure. Just have a go at it, toss whoever in there that you can. Not only will you be able to take advantage of the new ARES system and bonus RPP, but you'll more than likely be making a few awesome writing partners along the way.

If you want to chat or plan something, hit me up in PM on Caligrace. :)

[Natsuko]

I apologize if you all felt insulted by that remark. I was tired and upset when I wrote that. But, that is how it appears by looking in as me being an outsider like I feel as if I am intruding.

[Natsuko]

I know some writers on some sites like these can be elitist, and avoid roleplaying with writers they feel have less than perfect grammar, or characters they don't personally like, etc. That might be happening, but I doubt everyone is like that on Path.

People generally don't say hello when anyone joins chat, except a small circle of about 5 friends. So don't feel like people are snubbing you there. Most of the time people are away from the keyboard and just ghosting, and even when they aren't they don't tend to say hi to everyone. That's something I'd love to see improve, so people like you are very welcome in Path Grumpy, because you're friendly. And friendly counts for so much when you're trying to build a good community!

As for roleplay, jump into open threads! Get more practice that way, and your character will find tons of allies whose writers drag you into threads regularly.

Thank you David. But yea its how I feel and as I said before I didn't mean to say those are stuck up and such like that, but I agree people need to be more open and friend to those who are new and trying to fit in. I've been trying for the past three years and trust me I even tried getting involved in those Open forums only to be ignored not a single glance. So. I just ended up doing my own thing which is Designing.